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Lyndonville, Vermont, United States
Hi there and welcome to my blog. I am a married 60 year old woman who still has the mind of a twenty year old. I have three children and two grandsons. I've been to hell and back each time stronger than the time before. If I can help you then it was all worth it.

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

Empty Nest Syndrome #IMissYou#EmptyNestSyndrome#DealingWithTheFeelingOfLoss

I never knew I could love anyone else as much as my own children for which there is none like a mother's love which is where the term "I Love You to the Moon and Back" comes from. I have made mistakes, moved mountains, motivated by my children, raising them to be strong, independent people,  to be better off than I was. 

I wasn't prepared for Empty Nest Syndrome. Empty nest syndrome is a feeling of grief and loneliness parents may feel when their children leave home for the first time, such as to live on their own or to attend a college or university) which hit me hard when my son spread his wings and flew off to the Airforce Military. You would have thought the sting of separation would have been lessened for he had been going to Florida to see his father and his wife since he was really little. Think again, I'm such a wimp!

I remember that was the very first time I had ever set foot in a commercial airline. My son looking so tiny in the seat. That was the day my heart broke just a little. If only I knew then what I know now. I think the oceans are really made of all the mother's of the world's tears.

The stewardess assured me he would be watched over all the way there and I managed to hold back my tears until I stepped off the plane watching it fly my little son away from me. Hours later I got the expected phone call that all was well, I could finally relax.

Now when my daughter grew up and decided she wanted an adventure. I gave her my blessing. She was 17 and after some fact-checking, I wished her well breathing a sigh of relief that she had the strength to leave the go-nowhere town we lived in, closed the door and cried my eyes out, my heart breaking a little bit more. Now I was faced with an empty 3-bedroom apartment.

I am lucky that despite all the miles and years that go by we are all deeply, completely bound to each other staying in touch through Skype, Facebook, Facechat, Instagram, phone calls, letters, cards, and visits. Our extended family has grown as well adding more family to love. Also talking to everyone I know or even don't know, I have drawn comfort that I am not alone in missing my kids and grandsons. 

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